Not feeling good enough is a mood and confidence killer. If you’re going through this, know that you’re not alone. The pressure of life and our surroundings often contribute to us feeling like this. There’s always the pressure to be “good enough” but how good is good enough?
Guess what, nobody knows.
What you should know is that you’re OK! Everything you’ve gone through - success, failure and the in-betweens - have got you to where you are today and that is something to be proud of. Go to a mirror now and say “I made it, I survived, and I deserve to feel good enough about myself”.
Then continue reading this to get more tips on how to overcome your self-doubt.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others
In this era where social media is everywhere, it increases the want to compare our lives to others. The idea that everyone else has a better life than us seems to be amplified by social media, leading us to believe things like "She has a better job”, “Look at their family, they look so happy together" and "I will never be like him." The harsh reality is that there is always going to be someone who has more than what you have… and that is totally fine! Everyone’s journey is different and unique. Even you may have someone out there envying your life and wishes to be like you - for real!
2. Be gentle and forgive yourself
It is easy to slip into the trap of concentrating on what isn't working rather than what is. Everyone makes mistakes and that is totally normal. Blaming oneself and not feeling good enough go hand in hand. We have to learn to forgive ourselves. Give your soul a big embrace. Always remember that we can’t control everything in life and mistakes are proof that you’re trying.
3. Choose your surroundings wisely
There’s this saying that goes “your biggest enemy is the one closest to you”. Oh so true! Not everyone wants to see you happy. Align yourself with those that do! It makes a great difference when the right people are in our lives.
4. Define your own happiness
It’s not up to society to determine what makes you happy. That decision is yours and only yours. Put your happiness ahead of others and learn to appreciate yourself. Do things that bring joy to you. That could be as simple as making yourself a cup of coffee or even just simply treating people with kindness. If you’re unhappy right now, reflect. Why is this happening? Write down your frustration and try to find ways to make things better. Understanding why you're sad is necessary before you can look for happiness. You got this!
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